‘I brought my baby to a child-free wedding – I didn’t mean to cause drama’

A woman attending her cousin’s child-free wedding claims she decided to bring her 10-month-old son along with her anyway, as she didn’t feel comfortable leaving him in an unfamiliar place with a babysitter she didn’t know.

Unfortunately, not everyone was too happy about her ignoring the wedding rules in this way, and she has since found herself at the centre of unintended drama with her aunt and cousins.

According to this divisive wedding guest, no children had been invited to the wedding, apart from the bride’s young nieces and nephews, as there was limited space. Her other cousins had hired a babysitter for their kids, but she didn’t think this plan would be suitable for her own son.

She, therefore, decided to just go ahead and bring her baby to the wedding anyway, giving a heads up in her RSVP message, where she also specified he would be seated on her lap with his own food provided for him.

As her cousin didn’t say anything in response, she assumed he would be okay with this set-up, and so made the six-hour journey to the wedding venue with her baby in tow.

The unnamed woman has since taken to Reddit to ask others whether she made a mistake in bringing her young son along to a wedding where children had specifically not been invited.

She wrote: “My baby cried at the ceremony but I quickly took him out of the room. At the reception, I had him with me the whole time in a body carrier. He didn’t make much of a fuss and I thought everything was okay.

“After the wedding, my aunt (the groom’s mother) confronted me and told me that I was rude for bringing my baby without permission.

“I explained that I wrote on the RSVP what I was planning to do but my cousin didn’t object. She said that my cousin and his bride had a problem with it but the bride didn’t want to start any drama because she doesn’t know me well.”

According to the guest, who goes by the username u/babyweddingthrowaway, her aunt told her she should have just left her child with the certified babysitter, just as her other cousin had done with their seven-month-old baby.

She added: “Some of my cousins were upset because they thought that the groom gave me special treatment by letting me bring my baby and making them leave their kids with a babysitter. I didn’t mean to start any drama.”

Regardless of her intentions, many of her fellow Reddit users feel she should have just stuck to the rules and respected the bride and groom’s wishes.

One person wrote: “You can’t just write in a plus one. Especially a child at a child-free wedding. Your child was disruptive for a bit before you took them out, which is exactly what the couple didn’t want.

“You disrespected the bride and groom, violated their wishes, and disrupted the ceremony. This was extremely not okay of you. If you can’t find a suitable childcare arrangement, stay home.”

Another said: “This was immensely inconsiderate on multiple levels. 1) To the bride and groom who made their wishes clear; 2) to the people who were looking forward to a child-free wedding; and 3), especially the people who made proper arrangements and didn’t bring their kids, even though they may have wanted to.

“You’ve now made the bride and groom look like they gave you special treatment and not other guests. That’s extremely unkind and thoughtless of you. You owe them an apology.”